How deep is your connection with your significant other? The answer lies in how well you know them. Love maps are a great place to start building and even re-building a connection in any relationship. This article will focus creating a healthy romantic bond but you can also use this technique with your family and kids.
Let’s talk “love maps”. They’re not so difficult to explain; if a map gives you the ability to navigate the globe, a “love map” provides you with the means to navigate a shared life. The term was coined by Dr. Gottman and it’s good you know it because love maps can make - or break - a relationship.
Why are love maps so important? Relationships are about not only connecting with someone, but also staying connected and it isn’t as easy as you’d think. Being human means our likes and interests change over time and if we don’t want to drift apart, we need to stay in the know. Being constantly curious about who we’re with is a great way of being connected...otherwise, years into the relationship, you may wake up next to a stranger.
To discover your partner's map, you simply need to know things about them. The questions will range in intimacy and are meant to help you connect and understand each other. Remember, it’s best to build on a good foundation of knowledge so...know the easy answers before jumping into the deep end.
Here are a few questions to get your started.
Emotional intimacy is an important part of feeling love. And to keep the love alive, it’s recommended that you build on your love map often; every week. Keep in mind that maintaining a healthy relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. The best news of all is, believe it or not, love doesn’t have to get boring or old. With love maps, love and connection can deepen and grow over time.
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And until next time, awareness up.
Jed Thorpe, CMHC